Nobody likes to lose.
Whether it’s in sports, academics, or even finances, it’s only natural to feel ashamed or uncomfortable when we feel as though the goals or rewards that we spend so much of our time chasing after seem to only move further and further from our reach.
However, despite its many negative qualities, defeat has more good to offer us than we may initially realize.
In a moment of defeat we a given the rare opportunity to make some of the most important discoveries about ourselves that may ever have in our lives.
Though it’s true that defeat is never a pleasing experience, that doesn’t mean that it can’t have pleasing results.
What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
The bad feelings that result from an experience of defeat never directly result from the experience itself but rather from our responses to them.
In defeat, we often lose sight of all of the victories we’ve experienced in the past and temporarily allow our minds to become firmly attached to the present situation rather than the entirety of reality around us.
That is to say, when we lose, we focus on a tree, not the whole forest.
Even though we might be excellent individuals who give our best at everything we do and listen carefully to the advice of others, in the moments of our defeat, all we are confronted with is the awareness of our present inability.
How we respond to that instant awareness is what makes the difference between finding victory in defeat and just being defeating.
When we talk poorly of ourselves and heedlessly punish ourselves without thought or reason, our defeat becomes final.
Our defeat becomes final in those moments because in allowing a situation to so firmly shake us that we resort to hurting and abusing ourselves physically and emotionally, we for that time forget that God exists.
We temporarily forget everything he has brought us through in our lives.
We forget every trial and tribulation we have endured.
We forget who we are and who God made us and in our absent-mindedness, we become weak.
Only in losing sight of God and in forgetting the promises he had made to us are we ever truly defeated.
Therefore to resist defeat is to always be mindful of the presence of God no matter how bleak and hopeless any situation may be.
For everyone who has been born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world—our faith.
1 John 5:4
The truth is, there is no situation or circumstance that we cannot endure because, through our faith and devotion to God, nothing in this world has the power to break us.
Through the power of God, we are not the same people we were before.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
We have been made into a people who can live their lives boldly and unafraid of any hardship or trial we may ever endure because, by the promise of God, our future is already secure.
There will always be a better life waiting for us on the other side of any conflict or adversity.
The real trial we are confronted with when we feel the pain of defeat is whether or not to keep believing that truth.
Regardless of how we feel about it given the gravity of a situation, God’s plan for us will always persist through every storm and through every fire.
Only when we find the strength to hold on to that belief in the midst of our everyday lives we can not only become a people who can never be defeated, we have taken the first and most crucial step in finding victory in defeat.
In God, your victory has already been decided.
Live by that hope, and the sting of defeat will never touch you.
Thanks for Reading!
Stop by tomorrow afternoon (06/09) for Part 2.